Dan Kimball , voorganger van vintagechurch, maakt hier een niet onbekende opmerking over de balans bewaren tussen wereldvreemdheid en wereldgelijkvormigheid en in het bijzonder de invloed op onze relaties we hebben of hadden met vrienden die ons niet volgende op de christelijke weg.
Samengevat merkt hij een paradox op in het gegeven dat hoe ouder, hoe wijzer, hoe meer we op jezus gaan lijken, we tegelijk minder authentieke relaties hebben met hen die daar nu zouden moeten van kunnen genieten, onze niet christen vrienden. We nestelen ons in onze geloofsgemeenschapjes en verzaken aan het missionair karakter van het evangelie.

“This chart/timeline is from the book I just finished called “They Like Jesus but not the Church” (Zondervan) coming out next year. But in light of the t-shirt discussion, it seems to be fitting in asking – if the below chart/timeline is true for Christians who become more separated from non-Christians the longer they are Christian, how does this lessen the impact we have as salt and light in our communities?

The irony is that we are on a mission for Jesus, but the more older and mature we become as Christians (and hopefully wiser), the less non-Christians then get to see and experience Jesus in us. I am talking about actual relationships and friendships where trust and dialogue are built with people who get to know us personally, not just street witnessing type of a thing to strangers.

Instead of only circling in closer with all Christians as we get older and more mature in our faith, shouldn’t it almost be the opposite as we grow older? Of course, provided we maintain Christian community in the midst of being on a mission for Jesus, as we all need Christian community. But it seems ironic that when we mature and know Scripture better, and Jesus better and are transformed all the more by the Spirit – that less and less non-Christians get to really experience that through relationships with us since we are more and more entrenched in the Christian sub-culture.”